Do you believe that you have found the one? The one you have been waiting for all your life? The one and only? If yes, then you will definitely be looking to keep your relationship strong. You have come to the right place because here we are going to give you some tips as to how you can make your relationship even stronger than it already is so that no third parties or misunderstandings can disturb the beautiful bond that you have.
Falling in love is an amazing thing! But, for any relationship to last, even though love is necessary, it cannot single handedly carry the entire relationship. Follow these steps and you will discover new strength in your relationship:
1. Appreciate and accept the little things.
The two key ingredients of mature loving are appreciation and acceptance. If you are not already doing it then you need to start it immediately. These two are a must in a relationship. Without these, any kind of relationship can stumble and ultimately fall. Being appreciative is the best gift you can give to anybody and accepting the person for who they are will only make them more comfortable, and thus, trusting around you. This will build a structure of belief and trust around the relationship.
2. Ups and downs are a part of the journey.
You cannot expect yourself to be happy all the time and you cannot expect an entire relationship to be smooth all the time. There will be ups and downs in the relationship just as there are ups and downs in life. Enjoy the ups and recognize the downs and work on them together. Once you have made your commitment to a long term relationship, you should be ready to face the lows as well as the highs of the relationships as a team.
There have been many scientific researches that state: those couples who prefer to use “we” more often are the happier ones than those who prefer to use “you”, “I” or “me”. It is known that “we” is definitely a game changer. The moment you start referring to both of yourselves as a cohesive unit, it creates a persona of your relationship. “We” has the power to display your relationship to the world as a strong bond. The “we” mindset will surely make you and your partner more generous and loving towards each other. After all, “we” shows to everyone else as well as yourselves that you are in this together.
4. The 3:1 ratio.
Throughout our lives we experience negative and positive emotions. The variation keeps on happening. Nobody can claim they have lived a perfect life without any downs or negative experiences. The same goes for the relationship. You need to look at your relationship like an actual living being. Just like you and me, neither can it be completely happy all the time nor can you be sad all the time. People generally think that as long as the positive experiences are outnumbering the negative experiences, there is nothing to worry about. But research has shown that the magic ratio for positive and negative experiences in a relationship for it to be healthy is 3:1.
5. Keep discovering.
One of the best things about being in a relationship with someone is that you know everything about each other, which can be a really great thing. But in certain cases, it can also gradually start to become boring. So you might want to learn new things or start that hobby you have always dreamt of doing. It would be even better if your partner decides to join you! But if they don’t, no need to worry. You will have something new and refreshing to talk to them about.
6.Don’t let the playfulness die.
Regardless of our age, we all love to play games and have fun. Do not forget to do both with your partner. Go out and do something ridiculous! Or whenever your partner refers to something that bothers you, try responding with something funny rather than being defensive. Being playful can be therapeutic for both the relationship and those that are involved!
7. Don’t forget to give your partner some space.
The porcupine example is perfect to explain why people need some space to themselves regardless of how long the relationship has been. As two porcupines get close to each other in order to remain warm, they must be careful because if they get too close, they end up hurting each other.
This is exactly the same thing that happens with humans. Human beings crave to be close to the person they want but at the same time require their own space. The trick is finding that sweet spot in the middle. Being too clingy may cause frustration or less attention might cause in drifting apart.
8. Physical affection.
Although you don’t have to be a scientific genius to realize this, studies have illustrated that showing physical affection towards your partner has a lot of benefits. For example, it is said to reduce blood pressure, release feel – good hormones, relieves stress, improve mood and is associated with higher satisfaction in relationships. Showing physical affection can include kissing, sudden hugs, cuddling, back rubbing, and many other things.
9.Focus on the positives.
There has been another study which has concluded that the couples who decide to keep their attention towards the positive experiences more than the negative ones tend to be happier than those who do not focus as much on the positive experiences. If you need to address a negative situation try doing it in a positive manner. Address the situation with a positive attitude and your partner will not feel the need to be defensive or take offence. This way, you can correct the issue without hurting one another.
10.Use a filter.
We all have room to grow and change so you should not blurt out every critical suggestion that comes to your mind. A study has shown when around tricky topics or talking about something that your partner likes, you should try to avoid being too critical about it. For example, if your partner is watching sports, you should not criticize the whole organization. Some men are really sensitive that way.
Being vulnerable is the highest form of emotional intimacy. If you are ready to be vulnerable in front of your partner, it just goes to show how much you trust them. When you do, they will do it too. Being vulnerable means showing your true self to your partner whether that be a weakness, a shortcoming, or future goals.
12.Actions speak louder than words.
Make your partner feel loved. After some time in relationships, just saying “I love you” is not always going to be enough. You need to show that you actually do love your partner. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture either. It doesn’t even have to cost anything. All you need to do is surprise your partner and try to be unpredictable. Make surprise breakfasts, start the heater in the car before they arrive so the car is warm in the cold weather. It’s always the little things that make all the difference. You do not need to think about spending money every single time you want them to feel special, you just need to take care of the little things of life. That is all that really matters the most in a relationship, whether it is a new one or a really long term one. Even the long distance relationships can have those little things, you may have to be more creative. This could be sending a small care package or a letter the old fashioned way.
Following these simple steps is sure to take your relationship to a whole new level. Soon you will start to realize the bond getting stronger too!